Father's day, 2000
A lot of people wonder what "Don't Try" means on Bukowski's grave marker. The origin of the inscription can be found in an interview with Linda Bukowski conducted by Mike Watt in the San Pedro zine The Rise and the Fall of the Harbor Area:
Watt: What's the story: "Don't Try"? Is it from that piece he wrote?
Linda: See those big volumes of books? [Points to bookshelf] They're called Who's Who In America. It's everybody, artists, scientists, whatever. So he was in there and they asked him to do a little thing about the books he's written and duh, duh, duh. At the very end they say, 'Is there anything you want to say?', you know, 'What is your philosophy of life?', and some people would write a huge long thing. A dissertation, and some people would just go on and on. And Hank just put, "Don't Try."
As for what it means, it's probably best to let Bukowski tell us:
"Somebody asked me: "What do you do? How do you write, create?" You don't, I told them. You don't try. That's very important: not to try, either for Cadillacs, creation or immortality. You wait, and if nothing happens, you wait some more. It's like a bug high on the wall. You wait for it to come to you. When it gets close enough you reach out, slap out and kill it. Or if you like its looks, you make a pet out of it."
- Charles Bukowski